To Be Or Not To Be!

During our course of life, there are many things that we come across and there are many things that we intend to change. Our personality undergoes numerous changes. We try to imbibe certain values and try to fit in certain things in ourselves but we are not always successful. We lose confidence in the new values even before we have started seeing the changes that the new values have brought in life. Yes, there would be obstacles in any new path as it takes time to understand it and the impact those values can have in our life. We feel mystified, we feel we will not be ourselves then but we must realize one thing that in order to bring marvelous changes in our lives we need to change ourselves a lot. Just a month or two of implementation will not bring a change at a big level. We need to mold ourselves according to the new values and new agreements with your self.

We read various motivational quotes and inspirational quotes but what we actually need is to look within ourselves, and usher in the changes so that we can be in better control of ourselves instead of searching outside for peace. If we make five agreements with ourselves then there is nothing that can keep us away from the path to happiness. Let us all resolve to follow these agreements each day and see the changes if we stick to it. If we deviate then we shall not blame these agreements that we face in life. These agreements have been derived by Master Don Miguel Ruiz from the Toltec.

1. Be impeccable with your word
2. Never make assumptions
3. Never take things personally
4. Give your best to whatever you do-Aim at perfection

The Stark Reality Of Life

Man is always in search of truth and reality. He knows that truth hurts and reality bites but still he wants to know the truth. He wants to know what lies beneath the surface. But sometimes we are not ready to accept it. And this leads to all problems of life. Accepting truth and stark realities of life helps us to lead happy lives. By that way we are not living under an illusion and truth lies ahead of you. You will not be disappointed when truth shows its face or when reality comes on the surface removing the debris of pretense. As one author has rightly said, "People do not change, it is only the masks that fall".

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Accepting the truth and accepting to live the way he has intended us to live is the key. Trying to change or control things is not going to fetch anything in life. But control on self is possible, so why not divert your energies on that way.

Change: The constancy of life

Change, the only thing constant in life. How many of you heard this sentence before and have hardly accepted it? We all know that changes are inevitable in life, yet we fail to accept it as a part of life. We get on with the routine of life and when something changes, we feel upset. We always want to go in one flow without accepting the fact that life is replete with changes.

When we embrace change as a part of life, things will be much easier for us. Its not going to be the same every time. Always expect and accept changes. For example, if you are expecting a particular kind of behavior from your boyfriend as he always does that and if suddenly he stops doing that or does it in a different way then thats going to upset you a bit. But, if you accept that change as a part of natural process then, you are not going to be upset.

The better way to embrace changes is to introduce them in your life constantly. Let not routine set in your life. Bring minor changes in your everyday schedule, instead of taking the same monotonous way. This can change your outlook towards change. For instance, take a different route to your office, read a magazine instead of the newspaper, instead of watching T.V take a walk in the park, do not sweat it out at the gym but take a run in the woods etc. Bringing minor changes in everyday life can make you ready to face changes as a part of life.

What Is Life?

Life is surely a game, a complicated game. You never realize you are living life amid the ups and downs it takes you through. It is never meant to be straight. There are always going to be obstacles in your path and yes of course, joy and happiness. The thing is to face reality and live with it. Once we accept reality and start living with it we will never feel pained.

We all try to live in an illusion, thinking that everything is hunky dory. But, there is always something in the background that we are not able to hear, and when this sound becomes audible we feel life is bad. But, life was never meant to be perfect. But, if we clear this illusion, be clear minded and head strong then there is never going to be a time where we have to wake up from the deep slumber called fantasy. We will always be awake and arisen.

Analyze things in your life, accept them as they are instead of aiming to reach a point in life where there will be absolute happiness. Because, if you are dreaming of such a thing, you are in search of a never never land, a land where everything is perfect (but which never exists). Only thing required is to face the reality and being strong to live with it.

Remember the quote by Ann Landers:
Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life, and when it comes, hold your head high, look it squarely in the eye and say, 'I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me.'